THE SUNDAY SHIFT: Are you holding someone back?


Hi Reader,

Welcome to The Sunday Shift!

It’s Monday evening and I’m reading an article on breakthroughs.

One woman shared a story about her judgment toward her friend group. An elite, extreme group of runners who train and compete at levels she couldn’t imagine.

Her thought? “Why spend so much time pushing yourself that far? Take a break. Have fun. Add some joy.

Then she had a breakthrough.

She realized her judgment wasn’t about them at all. It wasn’t because they didn’t hang out with her or because she didn’t value their friendship. It was because deep down, she didn’t share their level of desire, devotion, and dedication. This gave her feelings of inferiority, like she wasn’t good enough.

So instead of celebrating their goals, she wanted them to pull back… to stay closer to where she was.

And the moment she saw her truth, she shifted her perspective from judgment to support. Instead of shrinking her friends, she chose to cheer them on.

That's self-awareness.

That’s self-leadership.

Sometimes chasing the next big leap may not be for you. It’s okay. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be. Have you noticed where you might be holding yourself or others back?

Ideas to Ponder

  • Who in your life are you unconsciously holding back because their growth feels uncomfortable for you?
  • Who may be unintentionally holding you back?
  • What would change if you gave (and asked for) full permission to grow?

🎯 1 Focus This Week

Choose one conversation or one relationship where you’ll shift from judgment to support or from playing small to claiming more space.

Because when you stop holding others back, you stop holding yourself back, too.

I believe you are the most powerful person you’ll ever know. One small shift, Reader, will help you believe it, too.

To bold moves ahead,

Jenn

P.S. If this resonated, forward it to a friend who’s ready to grow and might need a reminder that you’re rooting for them.

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